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How to Find Moments of Joy in the Mayhem of Menopause 

 November 17, 2020

By  Shirley Billson, The Menopause Freedom Coach

How many times do you pass off those everyday uplifting moments as insignificant? In the mayhem of menopause, do you ever struggle to focus on the good because you can’t get out of the bad?

If you relate to these feelings, then this post is for you. Even in menopause, we can work on shifting our mindset, so that the seemingly insignificant moments of joy become a powerful wellbeing tool for you to use. By taking the time to appreciate all the small pockets of joy around you on a daily basis, your brain will slowly start to focus on the calming, uplifting moments in life. By taking this approach, the positives will overtake the negatives, and even when you may think there is no joy to be had, by focussing on the everyday joys, you will find that you can find bursts of happiness no matter your situation.

What do small moments of joy look like?

When I’m waking up in the morning, I pay attention to my surroundings and focus on the aspects that bring me joy, no matter how big or small. I look outside and see trees, sunlight, the sky, fields, and feel grateful to live in a place where I have these beautiful sights in front of me. I choose to start the morning with some meditation and a cup of coffee because these are simple things which bring me pleasure. I then look forward to exciting projects I have coming up at work.

These are just a few things that bring me joy everyday and can give you an idea of how something that you may take for granted can actually bring great positivity if we take the time to focus on it. A simple cup of coffee for instance.

Different for everyone

Of course, who you are, and your living situation will mean that these pockets of positivity are different for everyone. Not everyone has countryside views to wake up to or a job they love. Nevertheless, you can still use the process of actively seeking out joyful moments. Do you live with people you care about? Have you got anything in your environment such as a picture of family or any home décor that brings you pleasure?

There are times when it is much harder to seek these small moments, and the negatives are hard to get rid of. It’s important to accept that tough times do exist. Homelessness, for example, means you don’t have those personal belongings and walls around you to find comfort in. What finding moments of joy can do though is sustain us and keep us going through the struggles. They give us something uplifting to focus on and provide hope during the darker times.

Developing patterns

From the examples above, something becomes clear. One moment of joy can lead to another. This is because the brain experiences something I describe as pattern matching. When we focus on something, our brains then want more of it and look for similar things. When we start looking for joyful moments, our brains then create a pattern of finding joy.

So as a final word, never underestimate the importance of the small, everyday uplifting moments, from a cup of tea, to a photo on your desk. Connecting to these things that are frequently in our surroundings frees you from the negativity and brings you out the other side. No matter how big or small you think a moment of joy is, it is never insignificant.

Shirley Billson, The Menopause Freedom Coach


Changing the rules on menopause so professional women can regain control & live life on their terms...in Worcestershire, The Midlands and beyond.


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